You may or may not know that cuckolding is a popular fetish. Not for me, but it has certainly gained popularity in recent years. Cuckolding is even the second most popular porn search term on the internet. Though I do consider myself open-minded and do enjoy watching my partner have sex with someone else, I can do without the humiliation.

In more recent years there has been an increase in couples that consider themselves ‘stags and vixens’, which still involves watching your partner have sex with another person. It is typically the man (stag) watching his (vixen) having sex with another man. In some cases, not necessarily watching but being open to hearing about her experience playing alone with another man.

With cuckolding, the person watching is typical the subject of humiliation and ridicule from the female partner while she is having sex with a more attractive, younger, and better-endowed man. In some cases, the cuck is typically made to feel small because of a small penis or inability to satisfy his partner. Sometimes the verbal humiliation is what makes it that much more exciting, with the partner expressing how much better her lover (often known as a bull) is than her cuck, how much bigger his penis is and how inadequate he is by comparison. If the cuck gets to participate it is typically to lick off the bull’s semen from his partner’s freshly fucked kitty or be forced to suck on the bull’s cock clean. But don’t feel bad for the cuck, he wants it that way. In cuckolding, the cuck doesn’t want to join in. The cuck might be involved in foreplay, or ‘forced’ to give the other man a blow job, but he’s not invited in. That would ruin the fantasy for most cucks.

For stags and vixens, humiliation is not an element in their play dynamic. The man (stag) in this case enjoys watching his other half (vixen) getting sexual gratification from other men and she enjoys performing for her stag. Many times, the stag is the one that arranges the meet with the other man. Though it is not unusual for the vixen to arrange a meet for her stag, because she enjoys watching as well, it is less typical.

Another difference with stags and vixens is that stags at some point do join their vixen with the other man, In most cases to play only with her but it is becoming increasingly popular to have bisexual play as well. Couples who practice stag and vixen fantasies are not, however, automatically polyamorous or open. Stags and vixens often only have sex this way in pre-arranged situations, having negotiated their boundaries and when they are both present. Lots of stags and vixens would still consider it cheating if their partner had sexual contact with someone else without discussing it first. If you’re looking at exploring non-monogamy, it’s important to get on the same page, communicate with your partner, and set clear boundaries. Also, please remember that however much you plan to have sex with someone else, you’re never obliged to and shouldn’t ever feel pushed to do so.

You’re allowed to change your mind at the last minute, the last second, or during.